A few months ago, my friend Michele helped me fill out an online dating profile. And when I say helped, I mean she did it for me....after a few glasses of wine. It retrospect, it was a fun night. We laughed hysterically when she posted some outrageous answers and I nearly cried from laughing so hard when she completely failed the motor skills test. Which is kind of a weird thing to have to complete as part of a dating profile, yes?
Since then, my inbox has been filled with potential 'matches' based on the results of this profile. I haven't read any of their profiles. I haven't looked at any of their pictures. I'm not even sure what my user name and password are because....yep, you guessed it....Michele did that too. Believe me, if I could delete this profile, I would.
The one positive thing that this profile has brought into my life is a realistic, genuine, even candid approach to figuring out what is important to me in a relationship. I've done a lot of soul searching this past year and throughout that process I've learned many things about myself. Like how I appreciate spontaneity and passion in a relationship mixed with a pinch of playfulness and a generous helping of chasing each other around the bedroom. I also value, more than anything else, honesty and integrity from my 'better half'....and from myself.
So, here's the truth....for the first time in my entire life, I am not defined by my relationship (or lack thereof). I have never felt better about myself and I believe that is because I have started taking better care of myself, listening to what my gut is telling me, and making more sound choices. I'm not a roller coaster of emotions anymore, my anxiety is nearly gone (down from epic levels just a year ago), and....well, I even look better (I've lost nearly 25 pounds since last year).
So, while I appreciate the concern from countless friends and family regarding my relationship-well-being; please don't mistake my confidence as a single woman for complacency or fear. I'm completely open to a relationship if one should appear. But I'm also blissfully happy being single. I am...in every sense of the word....happy.
So as for completing this one off my list....it's on hold. At least until I can figure out how to delete Michele's profile and replace (if need be) with my own. :)
XOXO
Mand'e
Since then, my inbox has been filled with potential 'matches' based on the results of this profile. I haven't read any of their profiles. I haven't looked at any of their pictures. I'm not even sure what my user name and password are because....yep, you guessed it....Michele did that too. Believe me, if I could delete this profile, I would.
The one positive thing that this profile has brought into my life is a realistic, genuine, even candid approach to figuring out what is important to me in a relationship. I've done a lot of soul searching this past year and throughout that process I've learned many things about myself. Like how I appreciate spontaneity and passion in a relationship mixed with a pinch of playfulness and a generous helping of chasing each other around the bedroom. I also value, more than anything else, honesty and integrity from my 'better half'....and from myself.
So, here's the truth....for the first time in my entire life, I am not defined by my relationship (or lack thereof). I have never felt better about myself and I believe that is because I have started taking better care of myself, listening to what my gut is telling me, and making more sound choices. I'm not a roller coaster of emotions anymore, my anxiety is nearly gone (down from epic levels just a year ago), and....well, I even look better (I've lost nearly 25 pounds since last year).
So, while I appreciate the concern from countless friends and family regarding my relationship-well-being; please don't mistake my confidence as a single woman for complacency or fear. I'm completely open to a relationship if one should appear. But I'm also blissfully happy being single. I am...in every sense of the word....happy.
So as for completing this one off my list....it's on hold. At least until I can figure out how to delete Michele's profile and replace (if need be) with my own. :)
XOXO
Mand'e
